I’ve always had a thirst for knowledge. I love nothing more than to find a topic of interest and learn everything I can about it. So it wasn’t a surprise when I moved myself a bit forward emotionally after adjusting to being on my own, that I immediately started doing my research!
The canvas of this next chapter of my life was blank. I’m not going to lie when I say I was both excited and scared of designing a life that was built for me, and by me. Oh the things I could do, and wanted to do! but what is it I wanted? life as a single parent is not what I planned on and it looked and felt very different than anything I had seen growing up. It was then I realized I was still holding onto the blueprint I had laid out in my mind of what I thought things should look like. We create emotional pain for ourselves when we cannot relive, find, or create what we have lost . That life is gone and if I do not re write my blueprint, I will always feel as though I am in a deficit. So I started to educate myself.
I threw myself into books, podcasts, youtube channels, anything that I could get my hands on that addressed self confidence, dealing with loss of love, loneliness, how to be happy, how to be independent, how to not give a fuck, how to imagine and manifest a life that was built on the unknown. The surprising thing that happened was, I started to feel better and move on! The constant wealth of information was giving me the ability to see how powerful I really was. It also was identifying my emotional injuries and areas of my life that needed work. In these resources were tips, other people I could model after and different perspectives I could incorporate into my daily life. I found something that worked for me, and to this day when faced with an issue the first thing I do is immerse myself in learning.
No one can ever take knowledge away from you. It is the single most important thing to rely on when in times of distress. The more you know, the more you grow. Staying open to the fact that we may not have all the answers to our problems, allows you to dive right in and find that there are other people in the same situation lighting the path for you. We can have nothing of monetary value , but if we have taken the time to do the work and learn we have more than money can buy. Yet another tool for our emotional toolbox we are creating together.
Truly, Terrie xo
As a helper I do love my resources! here are a few of the ones I loved.
youtube: Derrick Jaxn, MJ Harris, Bishop TD Jakes, Tony Robbins, Mathew Hussey, Melanie Tonia Evans, Ted Talks
Books: Unfuck yourself ( Gary John Bishop), The subtle art of not giving a fuck (Mark Manson), co dependency no more (Melody Beattie)
great spots for articles: elephant journal, tiny buddha, psychology today, lifehack